What Would You Think If I Told You This???

Ok so my mother lives in alberta and i live in ontario, over the last 3 months she told me she was sick with the following;


Kidney cancer


ovarian cancer


liver cancer


cancer of the spleen


Blood clot in thlung


blood clot in the legs


shingles


fibroids


was in a car accident and required chriropratctic care and massage therapy


had a full hysterectomy


She even went as far as shaving her head(i think it was to make people believe she had cancer)


If someone told you they had all these things in a 3 month period of time would you believe them or would you think maybe they were hypochondriacs?


I've asked my mother if she invents her illnesses but she claims she doesn't but then again why would she admit to it, do you think i am wrong to question this or should i be sympathetic to her?


I know this isn't in the right section i just like all the answers i get here in pregnancy, cause all you guys are great.


Thanks In Advance

What Would You Think If I Told You This???
I too would think my mom was a hypochondriac. That seems a bit excessive for only a three month span. And I know plenty of people who have had a comple hysterctomy. Thats a MAJOR surgery and not something you can "fake" Hypochondriac's will never admit that they are "fibbing" their problems. They truly believe that these things are wrong with them. They probably have symptomps of these things and so give it a name. Its hard to support these people. But on the other hand if you don't you will lose your mom. Try to convince your mom to see a psychotriast. I wish you the best of luck!
Reply:I would think she is lieing...but maybe she misses you and wants you to pay attention to her...offer to take her to a dr. and see what she says. I don't think you should tell her she is lieing...maybe she needs help.
Reply:i think i would b a bit suspious but b nice to her if she is lying then there is something wrong with her try again to talk 2her visit her and insist 2see her doc as u r worried if she had all these things i think she would b in hospital
Reply:i have an aunt like that,it is not good to do this ,it plays on peoples emotions.





i think u should simply ask her to stop as it is an immature thing to do.


she is only doing for attention and she is going to get the wrong kind of attention.
Reply:maybe she is having trouble upstairs if you know Wat i mean
Reply:I would tink your mom would be hospitalized if she were that sick, I think you should go vist her if possible and make a huge deal of her "illnesses", even talking to over the phone telling her about a specialist you found. talk about having a nurse come in to her hoe for care. Basically if she wants to be sick treat her sick. Good Luck
Reply:There's more cooking with her than hypochondria, hon. It there may be some sort of control/separation anxiety issue here and she's trying to get you closer to home....and the only way she thinks she can do it is thru a feigned illness....


....is there a trusted neighbour of hers/friend/ relative that you can contact unbeknownst to Mom that you can discuss this with?...a conversation with said person may give you better insight as to what is cookin' with Mom.....then take it from there....Good Luck.





note..is she divorced/widowed? being alone or thinking she's alone may be playing into this.....if your Dad/her hubby is in the picture ... if you can talk to him without Mom's knowing....he can give you the real 'skinny' on things...





...you can also tell her when you talk again that you're really worried about her medical condition and would very much like to get involved by talking with her physician so he can advise you on what you can do for her....ask the names for the specialists she's seeing so you can do the same...and then take note of her re-action..if she refuses to give you any names, or hems %26amp; haws then that's a red flag right there..she may need some professional help...not physical.....





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pick up the phone and call your step-father...ask him what's going on........
Reply:As horrible as it may seem, it seems like she's just in desperate need of attention from her daughter. Try calling her more often, or visiting if possible. Do you have any other family members that live around her? It's so sad but sometimes as people become older they start to need the attention that people need as children.
Reply:well if you have one type of cancer it does eventually spread so it is very possible.


in the past 10 years i have lost


my grandma-bowel cancer-passed away within a year of finding out


my cousin who was 4 nearly 5-neuroblastoma cancer of the diaphram passed within two years.


My nan-lung cancer-passed in two weeks after finding the lump


My dads cousin-brain tumor-passed 7 months after finding out


My mums brother-stomach cancer-went to hospital with severe backache and never came back home he also passed away within two weeks.





So my guess would be if your mum has all of this she would be extremely ill and in need of care and alot of painkillers.


I wouldnt rule out that she got cancer because you would feel terrible if really had and you doubted her,but i would suggest to her that want to go with her to one of her appointments as support for her,because if she any type of cancer she will numerous hospital and doctors visits so if says that she hasnt got any then i would be suspicious.





If she really is lying maybe its because you live so far apart and she is missing you and feels this is the only way to get back home.


I dont really know what else to say to you other than try and get proof of this so if she has you can support her and if she hasnt you can find out what is making her do this.
Reply:sounds like she is ill, some kind of mental health problem. i would go visit and offer her some support at a doctors appointment, it needs nipping in the bud or it could escalate-if she is so desperate for attention or so depressed is she capable of self harm to get others to believe her? good luck and best wishes to you.
Reply:Does she have a history of this kind of behavior? It's very rare for an older person to develop "hypochondria" spontaneously.





However, she is really sick. "Hypochondria" is a a Somatic Psychological Disorder, and while alone it's not serious, it can lead to more disturbing and harmful Somatic Disorders. I would recommend getting her to a doctor ASAP (your regular physician) and he/she will write a referral for your mother to see a psychologist.





As for playing to her "illnesses" listen to her (because outright denial will only reinforce her belief) but gently state that you don't think she truly has that illness, but it might be best for her to go to a doctor and get checked out. That way you're not agreeing with her, but you are being supportive.





I hope this helps! Good luck!
Reply:well we all die and well you need to be with her before she goes we only have one mom that raises us so spend time with her and don't wait tell she is dead who cares if she lies she just misses you and needs you and yes lien is wrong but, find out why and spend time with her we all know we all die know one lives forever.
Reply:I'd definitely be suspicious.
Reply:Hoe do you know she shaved her head if you are so far? Also, if she had all this as my fathe in law right now is doing cemo for cancer in the colon, liver, and lungs, he was give 1-2 weeks to live. I think if she did have this she would almost be dead. Things can go quick when cancer is spreading but then she would have defently told you she only has so long to live. Sorry if she is going through this but maybe she is trying to get attention. Is she like that. I really sounds like you don't have such a good realtionship with her from your talking because if you did, I would care what it took to get to her and see her before she dies. Work is not that important to be more important than dealth. once someone is gone you can never take back what you didn't do. Good luck and I will pray for your mom that she is healthy and gets the help she needs.
Reply:Sounds to me like she just misses her daughter enough to possibly make up these things. But let me tell you that if you don't go and see her, you will regret it. Or at least you should.
Reply:i would b a but suspicious,


but go up there jsut in case

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