I need help! please read this!?

I am seventeen years old, and i believe that i have Ovarian Cancer, my mother refuses to take me to the doctor. She believes that in order to get Ovarian Cancer, you have to sleep around. I have all the symptoms listed below...


-Abdominal Swelling/Bloating/Clothes Too Tight


-Abdominal/Pelvic Pain or Pressure or Feeling "Full"


-Gastrointestinal Symptoms (such as gas, indigestion, nausea, or changes in bowel movements)


-Vaginal Bleeding or Discharge


-Urinary Problems - Urgency, Burning, or Spasms


-Fatigue and/or Fever


-Pain During Intercourse


-Back Pain


-Difficulty Breathing


Please help! how do i explain to her that i absolutly need to be seen by a obgyn? how do i make her understand?

I need help! please read this!?
Even though you still need to see a doctor, don't worry about it being Ovarian cancer. I had the same fears at your age and the exact same symptoms. My abdominal problems were caused by IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome), my vaginal problems were caused by birth control use (bleeding and discharge), and everything else was caused by stress. Stress can also cause abdominal problems. Urinary problems can be caused by a urinary tract infection, which is extremely easy to get (wearing to tight jeans/underwear, not going to the bathroom enough, not drinking enough water, etc). I've had one before and it was painful to go pee, it hurt to move the muscles the you use to go pee, it burned, and I was running to the bathroom just about every 30 mins. Also the abdominal pains and vaginal problems could be caused by endometriosis ( which is where when you get your period, your body actually sheds some of the tissue in the lining of your uterus). It can be extremely painful and my require surgery. There could be dozens of things.





Now in regard to your mother. She probably doesn't know much about that subject and thinks that any problems that you have down there are caused by "messing around". The best thing to do is go to sites like


www.webmd.com and www.mayoclinic.com





webmd has a symptom checker where you could go and type in your symptoms and see what possible things could be wrong. Get information on the various diseases, infections, and other things that you possibly could have and print them out. Sit your mother down and talk to her, and show her the information that you have. Show her that all vaginal problems are not caused by sleeping around, and tell her that you're really concerned and don't want to be stressed over it or end up having complications down along the line if there is something wrong. Tell her that its extremely important that you find out if something is wrong now and that's it's for the best.





If you're mother still does not want to take you to see a doctor, you can call and make a appointment to a clinic. Planned Parenthood is the best place to go, because they understand that these situations are extremely confidential and will not tell your parents. If it comes to this I have some suggestions. If you have a cell phone, use it to call the clinic and give them that number to contact you back on. DO NOT GIVE THEM YOUR HOME NUMBER AS THEY WILL CALL YOUR HOUSE AND YOUR MOTHER MAY ANSWER THE PHONE. As tell them that to contact you, you only want them to contact you via your cell phone because even though the letters (if they contact you via mail) only have the address and don't have the planned parenthood logo, your mother may know the address of the clinic or get curious and open the letter. Also call first and ask how much everything will be because it varies from clinic to clinic, some accept insurance, others will bill you, and some you have to pay upfront. Just tell your mom that you have to stay after school for something, you're going to a friend's house or the library to study or something of the sort. If you skip school it may show up online ( in my state you can check your child's attendance online, or your school may call your mother to ask about you, which some schools do).





I hope that all this helps and that nothing is seriously wrong with you or if there is that you find out what is the matter.
Reply:If you have a friend that will take you, go to a free women's health clinic. You don't need insurance or anything to go. Your mom obviously doesn't want to take you so please go yourself. if it's serious, you do not want to wait.
Reply:if you're really worried, go to the doctor by yourself or take a friend. It's most likely you don't have cancer at all but if that's what it takes you make you feel comfortable then do it.
Reply:tell her about your symptoms and if she wont listen to you go to a planned parenthood type of place... they can do a pap smear for you and its confidential so your parents wont know... if there is anything abnormal about the test you will probably have to see a specialist but i would hope that would be convincing enough for your mom to take you
Reply:If you've told her you have all of these symptoms and she still won't take you (as it sounds she won't, if she believe OC is caused by sleeping around)---you need to go on your own to your MD.





Check to see if there are local free clinics/Planned Parenthoods in your area. You're old enough to legally make your own medical decisions about things like this---take the power into your own hands.
Reply:I know this sounds bad, But if you are that worried go onmline and look up a local planned parenthood, skip a day of school, and get seen by a doctor without your mother.





It might not be cancer but is can be something just as serious.





Planned Parenthood gives dicounts for people under 18. So you will need some money





Good Luck!
Reply:If you have already shown your mother all this evidence and she still doesn't want to take you, then take matters into your own hands. Look up the local Planned Parenthood in your area. They can administer the proper testing at low cost and 17 is old enough to go without your mother's permission. With that being said there are many things that may be causing those symptoms. A clinic or OB/GYN can help you determine the best way to deal with them.
Reply:the symptoms you have listed are not just regarding oc...there are a lot of things that can cause those things...including PMS %26amp; urinary tract infections...





you can go to a doctor yourself...there are clinics





um, side question, why are you having sex and not on your own form of birth control? have you had sex without a condom ever? has one broken or slipped? you could also be pregnant....
Reply:frankly your symptoms may not be anything serious, but if you want to get checked up, you should be able to - if you are in school, check with the school nurse.
Reply:Are you sure your not pregnant? Like everyone else has said find a place you can be seen without your mother. Don't wait or put this off, do it right away.