Saturday, November 14, 2009

Am I ready for another child?

My miracle baby is now 3 and i had my tube burnt so no more babies, but i wonder about having more, i am only 27 and i only have 1. He his the greatest love of my life, my husband says he doesn't want anymore, (his 11 yr old daughter lives with us) but he brought up first about 6 mos ago. I don't know if i want another one or if I want mine to remain a baby. I know it doesn't work like this, but i can't imagine loving another child as much as i live my son. After all he is my miracle baby. Ovarian cancer twice, cervial cancer once. THe odds are slim to none once again, but should we talk about our options or just leave it as it is?

Am I ready for another child?
I think this is really your choice to make, but I can tell you that if you have another child, you will love that child just as much as you love your first. I was afraid of the same thing, and then I had my second. I love them both the same and differently at the same time.
Reply:if one parent wants another, and one doesn't, it's probably best not to have the child...





But go with what's in your family's heart. My philosophy - if it happens it was meant to be.





Definitely talk about your options!
Reply:ummm i dont knoww like its ur deciosion and just have a good convorsation with ur hisband see if u guys are finaciilly fit to have another child
Reply:My daughter said the same thing about not thinking she could love another child as much as the first. Mothers are a source of unbelievable amounts of love and you will be surprised at how much you could love a second child, differently, but as much as the first. My daughter found out with her second that it is an undeniable truth that the love is there.
Reply:I think it depends on your money situation. You can want a child but can you afford one? The other thing you must factor in is whether you want to be a "stay at home" mom or a mom that "goes to work."





One advantage of having another child is that your child will have someone to talk to and not be by himself. Of course, he will be the older brother and jealous of the "BABY" but as they grow up they will learn to depend on one another.





Having a child is hard and not wanting another child signals to me that you really do not want another. Kids need to be loved and they also need to know that their mother will always be there for them. So if you want another child, it's ok.





You and your husband need to discuss it fully before you make any decisions.
Reply:talk about it, maybe theres a compromise
Reply:That is great that you have a miracle child, and the child is lucky to have you as such a loving mother.


Only you and your husband can answer this question,and learn the answer together, and if you pray together, for wisdom, GOD Will send you a sign,





Health issues, finances, your other children, and much to consider.


If you and your family wants to grow,-- you could always adopt, you may think that you will never love another child like the one you have, howeve the miracle of children plus the "gift" OF LOVE AND ABILITY TO GIVE LOVE IS ETERNAL, i wish more people in the world had the "ability" TO LOVE WITH ALL THEIR HEART,





As long as you and hubby, are wanting more children for the same reason you have many options, however, try not to compramise health and the emotional security of the other children or each other if it is not exactly what you all want, good luck take care
Reply:Talk about it you may come to a good conclusion,but if he's no the first time yall talk about it leave it at that cause then he think tryin to force another one on him.
Reply:Leave well enough alone you did what you did at the time for a reason..Foster a child adopt an abandoned or abused child what greater joy could there be giving a child a loving stable home..i think now it's just wishful thinking..


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