How much is too much?

This is to all Christians. Please don't bash Christianity or myself or my questions, please. I do not think I could take it.





Many Christians, myself included, have said "God will never give you more than you can handle." Well, how much is too much? Two years ago my mom was diagnosed with stage 1 ovarian cancer and stage 4 colon cancer. She had surgery and has been on chemo ever since.


A few months ago (after trying to get pregnant for three years) my husband and I finally conceived, only to lose the baby four days after we found out. We haven't gotten pregnant since.


On Monday, my mom was admitted to the ER and has been in the hospital ever since. She has a bacterial infection in her blood (probably from her chemo port). On Wednesday morning, I had the responsibility of going to the hospital to tell her that one of her sisters has passed away (my aunt whom I loved deeply). And this morning, we were informed that my mom now has bone cancer as well.

How much is too much?
I feel your pain - and wish with all that I am there was more I could offer you than words.


Pain is a part of life. That holds true for all of us, whether we are Christians or not. We all cope - some by trying (and sometimes even managing) to get through in their own strength - others by realizing just how weak they truly are and drawing on the strength of the Lord.


I have been "tested and tried" - I was raised by an alcoholic father - whom I discovered at 14 was a homosexual pedophile who abused by brother and attempted to "solicit" several of the neighborhood children (at least I finally figured out why I was less than popular).


My mother was (and remains) in total denial, the classic "enabler" - I was gang raped at the age of 13 - my first child was born blind and my second is autistic. My first husband was physically and emotionally abusive and I spent more than my fair share of time in the local ER offering up "excuses." My best childhood friend died of leukemia less than a year after giving birth to a child they had struggled for years to conceive - and I could go on for hours.


ALL of us who believe in God have asked Him "why - why - WHY???" My own experience has told me that the best answer to that ever present "why" is the "Everlasting Who." I have questioned God - I have begged to find understanding and purpose in things that seemed beyond comprehension - but I have also come to know that no matter how incomprehensible it seems, the character of God causes me to trust that there is meaning and purpose - there is some greater good in all the bad, even if I never see it this side of Eternity. My own pain and experiences have been the source of comfort for others - just as theirs has often comforted me. Even though the outlook seems dim and unbearable at times - the "uplook" elicits trust.
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Reply:I am not Christian . so will leave the advice for your brothers and sisters who could probably advise you better in a way that you need it


but just wanted to give you my love xxx
Reply:I don't think that God is doing these things. Sometimes life just sucks.





Several years ago I had an unusual experience concerning an uncle, a distant relative who lived over a thousand miles away.





While driving my car I suddenly felt the unmistakable presence of this relative that I hardly even knew. He was more like someone I had heard about than someone I knew. It was very strange; it felt as though I was momentarily lifted right out of my physical body. I seemed to be suspended somehow beyond space and time, bathed in a love so intense It felt like I could have just disappear into it at any moment if It would have let me. It only lasted for a few seconds, but it seemed to last forever at the same time. I realize how crazy this must sound. The experience was so strong that at first I was afraid I was loosing my grip on reality. I finally managed to chalk it up to an over active imagination.





Three days later I got a call from my aunt telling me that this uncle we are talking about had gone into a coma and died the day I had the experience. It felt like ice water had been poured down my back when she told me this. I had lost any real ideas of God or faith and had become somewhat of an atheist. Needless to say this experience caused me to rethink some of the conclusions I had come to.





I feel blessed to now understand that even in our darkest confusion something loves us so much that it went out of its way to assist me and bring me back to a state of absolute certainty about Gods love for us.


During the experience it seemed like there was a vast amount of information that I was somehow allowed access to. One thing that I came away from this experience understanding beyond any shadow of a doubt was that any Idea that God is unhappy with us or would judge or allow us to be punished for any reason is simply impossible.





I can’t explain the love I felt with words. They simply don’t make words big enough or complete enough to do this. The only way I can begin to convey this love to you is to say that there was simply nothing else there. Nothing but love. No hint of judgment, no displeasure of any sort. It is as though God sees us as being as perfect as we were the day we were created. It is only in our confused idea of ourselves that we seem to have changed.





I hope this is of some help to you. Good luck. Love and blessings.





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Reply:If I were the touch-feely type, I would give you a giant hug.


Oh, what the heck





((((Hug))))
Reply:Yes, dear sister, I have. But with all the trouble you have now, you don't need to hear my horror stories. It seems that trouble comes in bunches to people, whether they are believers or not. I have a bad habit of saying "Why us?" My husband just counters, "Why not us? The rain falls on the just and the unjust." I've prayed many times for good outcomes; sometimes God has said yes, sometimes not. What I try to learn that I cannot control outward circumstances, but can choose how I react to those painful events. So I count the blessings I do have, try to look with compassion at those dealing with harsher situations, and pray for strength and peace.





Praying those things now for you and your family, dear one.
Reply:WHY GOD ALLOWS PAIN......CHOICE‏


this is a forward i just received.





This is one of the best explanations of why God allows pain and suffering that I have seen...


A man went to a barbershop to have his hair cut and his beard trimmed.


As the barber began to work, they began to have a good conversation.


They talked about so many things and various subjects.


When they eventually touched on the subject of God, the barber said:





"I don't believe that God exists."


"Why do you say that?" asked the customer. "Well, you just have to go out in the street to realize that God doesn't exist.


Tell me, if God exists, would there be so many sick people?


Would there be abandoned children?


If God existed, there would be neither suffering nor pain.


I can't imagine a loving God who would allow all of these things."





The customer thought for a moment, but didn't respond because he didn't want to start an argument.


The barber finished his job and the customer left the shop.


Just after he left the barbershop, he saw a man in the street with long, stringy, dirty hair and an untrimmed beard.


He looked dirty and unkempt. The customer turned back and entered the barber shop again and he said to the barber:





"You know what? Barbers do not exist."


"How can you say that?" asked the surprised barber.


"I am here, and I am a barber. And I just worked on you!"


"No!" the customer exclaimed. "Barbers don't exist because


if they did, there would be no people with dirty long hair and untrimmed beards, like that man outside."


"Ah, but barbers DO exist! That's what happens when people do not come to me."





"Exactly!" affirmed the customer. "That's the point! God, too, DOES exist!


That's what happens when people do not go to Him and don't look to Him for help.


That's why there's so much pain and suffering in the world."








Don't loose faith! Pray more, depended fully on him and don't loose hope!





God works in mysterious ways!
Reply:Well . . . where to start. Abot 2 months ago I was on my way home from a job interview (i got the job). I was in a great mood . . . i stopped by my apartment to get my debit card... i ran in, grabbed it, and ran back out. (my daughter was in the car), i put my arm around the passenger seat and proceeded to back up, I was pretty close the sidewalk of my apartment, i thought i hit the sidewalk with my back tire. Well when i stopped... there was a little boy lying in front of my car. He was 2 1/2 years old. He was playing behind my car and i didnt see him. I was horrified. The police needed to do a few tests at the hospital, so i went with them and a 1/2 hour after i was there i found out he had past away. i was grieve strickin and depressed and stunned. i am still dealing with it to this day. and will for the rest of my life. I felt like giving up so many times . . . but there are so many people and so many things to look forward to. Live life like there is no tomorrow and tell everyone how much you care because u never know what's going to hapen (or in ur case when). I pray for your mother and I can understand where ur coming from about having the feeling of wanting to give up, but when bad things happen, God is crying with you. The Devil is the one making people go through the pain that we go through, God would make the pain go away if he could . . . ive asked him to make the pain go away and eventually it gets easier, but it will always be apart of you. God Bless!
Reply:Well, you've handled things so far, and quite bravely it seems. I regret that I cannot give you advice from personal experience, but (Psa 121:2) My help cometh from Jehovah, Who made heaven and earth.
Reply:The best advice I can give you is to just take it one day at a time. Try not to think too much about what the next day might bring.


I am no longer a Christan and I do not believe that God is testing you. This is the way life goes some times. there is nothing no one can do about it.


Go to your church try to find comfort in praying and look to your religious brothers and sisters for support and comfort your church can be a wonderful source of support and comfort at times such as these.


I think when things like this happen that,that is what God does


want you to do . It is not to give up on your believes but at times like this it is to find comfort and solace in your faith.


I wish your family nothing but the best and hope everything will be well.

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