I am 38yrs old, MUM died of ovarian & breast cancer, whats your story?

sorry about your mam i have just lost my gran she was full of the big C but my story i wish i could tell but i carnt has much has iwould love to say. but my mum left me my brother and my dad when i was 2 and my brother was1 we have never seen her since so ever time i see a story like yours it gets me thinking is she still alive or dead and sould i be worried now i have kids of my own and worry for them my daughter has a heart murmar so has she got that from my mum its one question i will never be able to answer,sorry for going on and i am sorry about your mum and all the loved ones see has left behind my thoughts are with you god bless

I am 38yrs old, MUM died of ovarian %26amp; breast cancer, whats your story?
All my mums side died of ischaemic heart disease before they reached 70 years old. After researching my family history I found my family has been dying from the disease for 199 years and 100s miles apart, sobering isn't it.
Reply:hello sorry about your mum my dad died of myloma nasty world isnt it.
Reply:Hey, my mother died of breast cancer when she was only 44, and my aunt died of breast cancer when she was only 46. You can bet that my sisters and I held our breaths as we reached those ages! They were both diagnosed at age 39, so that was another troubling year. The good news is that so far, none of my sisters has developed cancer, nor have I. yes we do get regular check ups, but so far, so good.


There is a book called motherless daughters, it is helpful in figuring out how to deal with loss, and it also reminds you that you are always a daughter and will always have reminders of what you have lost.
Reply:I really don't have one, but if you want a tiny bit of advice, see your doctor for periodic checkups. The fact that your mother had these cancers would predispose you to those conditions. This is not to scare you, but to make you extra vigilant. I'm really sorry to hear about your mom. Take care of yourself. God Bless!
Reply:sorry to hear about your loss/cancer is the devil in disguise i lost my dad and my oldest brother and have a sister that has had a masectomy and has bone cancer she is in remission it is not particular in its choosing is it
Reply:sorry to here about your loss. i have a story about someone that had cancer and it upset me to see how her loved ones treated her. so i was there for her when others werent.....................................




















a story about a neighbor with cancer that will make you mad.











when i was 12 my neighbor had breast cancer and she had just has a baby boy he was 6th month old she had 2 older girls one was 4 and the other was 7. the two older girls lived with there dad and the baby lived with her and her new husband. well one day her husband asked my if i would watch the baby and that she (his wife) was going to be there to if i would take care of her. so i told him i would. well she went to give the baby a bath and she couldnt pick up her own child, so i can him a bath well when her husband finally got home for the night he would tell me about the girls he met and that he was going to be with them soon.. what an asshole. well when she died within days he had a new girl living with him. and to this day i wonder what happend to that little boy.
Reply:So sorry about your mum I am 38 yrs old too and my mum died of bowel and liver cancer 8 months ago at the age of 60 after struggling with the disease for a year and 5 months. I miss her so much, she was my best friend. I am lost with out her but I have to keep strong for my four kids. I am grateful for the happy times we spent together. She appears in my dreams quite a lot and its because of these wonderful dreams that when I wake up in the mornings make me go through the day a little bit better.
Reply:I am 41 years old...lost my dad to lung and bone cancer....I am devastated by the loss of my dear dad..thats about it really....sorry you lost your mum xx
Reply:My sincere sympathy. If there is a history of these cancers in your family, perhaps you should inquire about being tested for the BRCA 1 gene. Your regional cancer society or a genetic counselor might be able to tell you if and how you could go about this.
Reply:My mom died of breast cancer. I miss her.





If you're a woman, I recommend reading "Motherless Daughters" by Hope Edelman. It's about women of all ages who have lost their moms and how the death of their mother affects their relationships with others (siblings, surviving parent, boyfriends, husbands). Reading their stories helped me cope with my loss. Maybe it will help you, too.
Reply:my bio dad kidnapped me when i was a baby .. he went to jail %26amp; is out now but can't contact me... my mother died (car accident) when i was 7 ( a week b4 my 8th birthday)... my step dad was a drunk and treated my like a step child and my sis (his bio daughter) like a princess..
Reply:So sorry to hear about your mum, i lost my wonderful mum to Lung cancer just last month and it feels like somebody has ripped my bloody heart out and smeared it all over my face.


Her mother also died of cancer of the womb when my mum was just 21 years old.


Cancer really is a shitty shitty thing and destroys so many families every hour of every waking day.


Be strong and i know that it's no consolation, but your mum is at peace and i hope she's hooked up with my mum and their watching us both!


Take care. x x
Reply:I am 55 yrears old. My father died of Multiple myeloma when I was 27 (1979) mom in heart surgery (1965) a brother leukemia 3 years agao. sister ovarian cancer 6 yeaqrs ago. a brother prostate cancer 4 years ago with 8 lymph glands removed. he is going strong. I lave leukopenia..low white cells. lump in my breast. i live each day to the fullest! We need a cure!!!!!
Reply:My grandmother died at 48, of breast cancer, years ago, and her husband of leukemia at 40, their son, of leukemia at 35. My grandfather-father's side-died of bladder cancer, my mom and dad of lung cancer. They were both lifelong smokers. I have survived breast cancer, 16 years ago, and ovarian cacer in Feb. of 2005.Supposedly, there is no genetic link but cancer kills almost everyone in our family.
Reply:All these sad stories of loss, this disease affects so many lives. My mum died of breast cancer when i was fifteen, I am now thirty four and a couple of years ago approached my GP to get tests for the gene, i was referred to Cambridge hospital to have my family history researched.


They came back to me with information after filling out a history form, apparently I am at the same risk as everyone else and no more, however they have found a link with my dads family.


My dad has had cancer three times- bowel, lung and skin. The bowel and the skin were linked but the lung was not (luckily I still have him). He comes from a family of twelve siblings, and on investigtion a signifcant number of them had been affected, I have found out that the same cancer has also affected some cousins.


The doctor has already got a sample of my dads tumour from the hospital he was treated at and has tested it. They have told us that there is a link now and it will be approx another year before my sister and I can be tested ourselves. The whole process does take a long time as it is very complex looking for the faulty gene.


I now am able to have colonoscopy tests every two years, and have written to all my cousins so that they can be screened if they wish. This gene also causes cancer of the ovary and womb but i am told there is no reliable screening available yet.


I see this information as a positive, I know some would rather not know but in experience early detection makes a difference between life and death.


My thoughts are with you x
Reply:I'm 29,my Mum is currently being treated for bowel cancer with secondaries in the liver,it's also spread to the rectum,uterus %26amp; bladder. She's had a colostomy,and is on chemo. They haven't decided if they can operate yet-find out on Thursday,if not it's a matter of how long they can keep it at bay.She might have to have her bladder removed (and have another bag),and a big liver op.She survived ovarian cancer a number of years ago. I've been caring for her since Summer.


My partner also lost her father to lung cancer last year,we moved in to care for him,was very hard to watch.Now we care for her paraplegic Mum.


My Granddad died of lung cancer before i was born,my uncle also died of lung cancer from asbestos poisoning,my uncle died from bowel cancer. Must mention Christie's hospital though-they've been amazing esp. Dr.Mark Saunders the consultant-and the chemo nurses,all bloody amazing!!
Reply:my nana is diagonosed with breast cancer touch wood she is very tough and getting though the treatment it depends on how worse the cancer is luckily my nana's cancer was a little tumour in her breast she has had her breast removed the day i found out was the worst day of my life as my mum and dad spilt up that night and it feels like the whole world has stopped but you just have to keep going in life.
Reply:My mum died of breast cancer 18mths ago after a year of treatment, I am 35 years old and I miss her like crazy, she was my best friend. I still haven't come to terms with it, Stupid I know but it is getting easier...
Reply:Sorry about your Mum, but I have PCSO and have a high rate of contracting ovarian cancer. What were your Mum's symtoms?
Reply:Jackie i am so sorry to hear about your mum, i know how you are feeling hun! I lost my husband to stomach cancer after being married for a little less then 6 years, that was 11 yrs ago he passed away at the age of 35. Not a day goes by that i dont think about him. I miss him so much he was not only my husband but he was my life, and that has never been the same.
Reply:I don't have a story to tell about this subject but if I were in a similar situation I would go straight to the doctors with regard to anything that is preventative.
Reply:jackie, did your mom have bc first or ovarian cancer? u should really concentrate on the health of your breasts. u need to do alot of research and educate yourself. I have learned not to always listen to the dr. but just listen to your body. The body tells us alot