I have an aunt in her 70s and she has ovarian cancer. While she is doing quite well considering, her cancer is terminal and she probably has another 2-3 years (she was diagnosed 2 years ago). She is still in good spirits and is tolerating chemo quite well. My dilemma is that i don't know what to get her for Christmas. A lot of stuff seems like its totally irrelevant considering what she is dealing with. Besides, she is the kind of woman that if she wants something, she would make sure she gets it, so she doesn't really need anything. She is still active in her community, sings in a chorale, is very concerned about her appearance (but has more clothes than she knows what to do with). Any suggestions are much appreciated. More appropriate gift questions will follow. Thanks!
What is an appropriate Christmas gift for a Cancer Patient?
well give her something handmade. what are you good at.?? something that will keep close to remember you and know that you put extra effort not just spend some of your money..
Reply:Dunkin donuts, candy, or books
Reply:how about something comforting....like a spa set...
Reply:A hug. Have dinner with her every other day. Mostly think about giving her your time. I know she would love that.
Reply:Compared to losing your life, almost anything would seem irrelevant to you, and maybe to her. As for the "need" issue, it is not about meeting her needs, but presenting a gift.
You mention her concern over her appearance, perhaps something that helps her with that would be most appreciated. Perhaps a photo display or similar type of remembrance of a life lived well with something inspirational for her future on it as well...people like to know they will "live on" even after they pass.
Reply:There is always the book--whatever type book she likes to read.
Do you live in or near a city? Why don't you get theater tickets and take her to the theater, symphony, or to a Christmas musical that is in the area? Lunch or dinner would add nicely to the package.
Reply:well my surgesstion is to take away the fact that she has cancer when you are picking out the present and get her something you would normaly get her weather it be cloths to a video what ever you want . you can also make her a gift which will mean more to her then you buying one make a gift with pics of her and you together and when you were younger even if you can get some of her when she was a kid and put them in a album remeber that even if she goes you will always have that to remeber that you made he chrismas great no matter what it is you give her
Reply:I think music. If you don't know what she likes, check out her collection when you visit. Maybe CD's of church music or some classics that she hasn't heard for a while. And, if she doesn't have a CD player - that might be good too.
If she does any crafts, a new book about them (quilt patterns, knitting ideas, etc) might be nice. I once got a friend who quilts one copy of every quilting magazine the newsstand had %26amp; she loved it.
If she cooks, a recipe book. Or, a blank recipe book that she can combine her own recipes into.
Good Luck!
Reply:Definitely something to let her know you are thinking of her and something that will make her feel good. A nice, soft blanket to cover with when she gets cold, or a nice scarf, perhaps. If you're the crafty sort, maybe something you can make for her - a quilt, or a photo album for her to look through. A collection of books or books on tape would probably be nice - it would give her something to do while she's going through the chemotherapy.
Reply:I think a prayerbook will turn out to be a very nice gift to a person who has cancer,together with your support for her.
Reply:Something soft and warm...I don't care how old we get, a girl
can never have to much soft, cozy warm stuff.
Reply:Ceaseless PRAYER and Faith in CHRIST ALONE.
NO material thing will suffice, NO gift other than concern for her spiritual state and witnessing to her the Gospel....Nothing but freedom in Jesus and His sacrificial death on our behalf can be weighed on the scales of temporal and eternal....and FAITH AND TRUST IN CHRIST ALONE shall be the only gift not found wanting......SHE IS IN MY PRAYERS!~
Reply:how about fancy hats. get her a few to match with her outfits.
make up is a good one, i reccommend "mac" name brand.
i had this facial cleaner by clinique. it was like a 3 step cleaner, it came with a soap bar, facial cleanser and facial cream. the soap bar and cream u use everyday, the cleanser every other day. it was the best i have ever had, it made my face glow. i had many compliments on my skin afterwards.
Reply:It sounds like your aunt is dealing with her illness very well by continuing to do the things she has been doing. I don't know how much you want to spend, but do you think she would go for a manicure and/or pedicure? I would enjoy that. But not at a nail salon---the smells in those places are really bad for a person's lungs, and it also might make her feel nauseated with the chemo. A gift certificate to a regular beauty shop that does manicures would be better.
It's hard to buy for someone who already has everything! If you like to spend time with her, you could make a fancy page on your computer giving her a coupon for a lunch with you. Or if you want to spend more, you could make it for dinner at a nice place. If you don't want to spend the time with her, a gift certificate to a nice restaurant would be fine. If she has a hobby, a gift card to a store where she could get supplies would be appreciated, I'm sure.
I'd try to forget the fact that she is terminal. She is living life now and I think you should treat her as if everything is normal when it comes to the gift. You sound like a good niece!
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Reply:plant her a butterfly bush so all summer long when she sees the beautiful butterflies on it she'll think of you. it's a gift that keeps giving.
every year, hundreds of millions of Monarch butterflies migrate from the rocky mountains to the California coast and back again. it takes 3 or 4 generations of butterflies to make the entire trip. but according to the Audubon society, this migration is threatened by deforestation in Mexico and land development in California.
only one hundred years ago, the Xeres butterfly lived in the sand dunes in and around San Francisco. but development wiped the dunes out... and the butterflies became extinct - the first butterfly wiped out by man.
Reply:I would give here a lotus blossom plant. The great thing about this plant is despite all odds this plant grows out of the mud and blossoms to one of the most beautiful and spiritual flowers. I think the gift of life in a plant would be great.
It would be a way of symbolizing her still living her life and dealing with terminal cancer. She still blossoms and thrive in the face of adversity.
Reply:when you are younger status is different than when you are older.....when you're young you're kind of "keeping up with the jones's", monetary things are important....as you get older (like your aunt's age) priorities shift and monetary things are very unimportant, but family becomes more important than ever....it's almost a status symbol to have all your relatives calling and/or visiting regularly....elderly people really value that personal contact......so i would say that your spending time with her dropping off whatever the gift is will mean more to her than the gift.....
Reply:having been the daughter of a cancer survivor, i would suggest with the winter fast approaching you get her something warm.
perhaps make her a soft hat to wear to keep her head warm
Reply:Given her apparent love of music, how about a nice CD?
Reply:A nice gentle body lotion, a bath pillow, an inspiring book, a CD of famous choral music, a poinsettia - just things to make her happy.
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Reply:I suggest you spend some time with your Aunt, sharing memories of family events. It would be nice if you and family members could work on a scrap book with her to help preserve these memories. Often time spent can be the greatest gift of all.
Reply:some like something different
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